Becoming a caregiver can creep up on you. Maybe it starts with dropping by your mom’s house to do her laundry or taking your dad to a doctor’s appointment or delivering groceries to your friend. Maybe you call your adult daughter every day to check in because she suffers from depression. Gradually, you find yourself doing more and more as the person you are caring for needs more support. You may not even realize it; you are making a commitment to care for someone else.
“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal and necessary” – Doreen Virtue
It is time to break the cycle of saying “yes” to everything, especially as a caregiver. It is essential for caregiver longevity, protecting your energy so you can be a better caregiver.
Zoom is an online video conferencing platform that we are currently using to host our Virtual Caregiver Support Groups. Since this is a new platform for many caregivers, we have compiled the most common questions, with answers to support you in joining our Virtual Caregiver Support Groups.
Part One: Steps to register for our support meetings & how to use Zoom
Part Two: Common questions and answers about using Zoom
“You have to be able to set boundaries, otherwise the rest of the world is telling you who you are and what you should be doing. You can still be a nice person and set boundaries.” – Oprah Winfrey
One of the most common challenges that we hear from caregivers is how difficult it is to use the word “no”, when caring for others. The word “yes” can be an automatic response for many caregivers. It can come from a need to people please, from a sense of guilt, or being tied to a situation.
Written by Kate Landreth, Education and Learning Lead with FCBC
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